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第33章以爱之名（6）
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&obecausedbye.Upsetsarecausedbyyaingehisinyourlife，seletupset，enifsomehowyoueaceeherewouldbe.
Therewouldbebecauseupsetsarehappesarecausedbyfightiingeyoutakeawaythefightiidisappears.
Tolivetheexperienceoflove，aealifethatworks，youopthefightiing.Youdhaprocesscalledlettinggo.
&inggoistheiiohefearahemomegseemstoge.Withthefearagone，youseeyoursituationverydifferently.Youbeecreativeaionsthatyoueverhaveseenbefore.
&go，youheoppositeoffightiigoofyourdemaionsforhowlifeshouldbeahthewaylifeis.
Findwhaty.Thefullpermissiohere，Ifyouhaveafearoflosiionship，bewilli.Ifythewaysomeohepersonfullpermissio>
Bewillingf.Setyourselffreeiakewhateverayouohaveyourlifebegreat.
Keepinmiinggoisastateofmindandhasnothingtodowithyouras.Lettinggoistheprocessthatremovesthefearasoyouseewhatayouake.
I，youbewillingtolosesomeoinyouras，dyouakesurethepersonfeelssolovedthatheorshewouldoleave.
Tomakelettinggoalittleeasier，thereareseveralstepsyoutake.Thefirstistrusting.Trustthathappens，youwillbeokay.Whenyouknowthatyouwillbeokay，lettinggobeesrelativelyeasy.
Trustingisalsotellih.Youreallywillbeokayhappens.Lifeiswhe.Sandtrust.Trustthathappens，youwillbeokay.
Thesedstepintheprocessoflettinggoistobewillingtofeelyourhurt.Bewillihehurtandthefeeliokaythatyourcesreactivate.Bewillihehurtofbei“goodenough”
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Theavoidahishurtiswhatmakesyouresist.Onceytofeelthishurt，thedisappears.Youletgo.
Forexample，RoberthadafearoflosinghiswifeJan.Tomakesureshedidn’tleave，hehungontoher.Hishangingonthenpushedherfurtherandfurtheraway.RobertwasafraidoflosingJanbecauseifshelefthim，thiswouldreactivateallhishurtoffeelingn.Toavoidthishurt，hehungon.
Oncehewaswillingtofeelhishurt，thelossofJaobeatreat.Henoloohangonandbecamewillioleave.Themomentthishappenedhegedthewayherelatedtoher.Insteadofneediedtreasurihesolovedaobeherself，shedidn’twanttoleave.
Thisisehemoreyouareabletoletgoandflowwithlife，themorelifetakescareofitself.Youmaynotalant，butyoualwaysbefreeinside.Yourestorebothyourpeaindaiveness.Youcreatealifethatworks.
爱的体验是一种心理状态。
沉浸在爱里，你会感到幸福快乐、生气勃勃、自由自在。
自我感觉良好，生活就会非常美好。
当你把这种爱的体验带进生活时，生活就会变得轻松自如，充满喜悦。
爱的反面是恐惧和不安。
处于这种状态时，你会深深地陷入绝望，失去创造力和洞察事物的能力；你的视野会变得狭窄，处世方式也会受到影响，这些使你的处境变得更糟。
不论你是沉浸在爱里还是陷入到烦恼中，一切并非取决于你的环境，而在于你面对环境的态度。
有一个很好的解决方法：正视你的烦恼。
烦恼看似因某些事而起，其实不然，它源于你对既成事实的对抗和抵触。
为了证实这点，挑一件你生活中最近的烦恼来看看。
现在，试想你能坦然面对发生的一切，看看结果会如何？烦恼不存在了。
某些事情的发生并不能引起烦恼，导致烦恼的是人们对事实的反抗和抵触。
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